Making space for your gifts is the most important thing you can do. Not only for yourself, but for those around you. I highly doubt that you live in complete isolation, there are those around you that depend on you – and for good reason. Therefore, finding your gifts can be an amazing experience that positively impacts those people.
Every snowflake is different, right. So is each person’s contribution to the world around them. However, in the hustle and bustle of every day, we often lose track of what it is that we contribute. We often lose sight of this because of that horrible little monster called Comparison. Comparison robs us/you/me of our greatness. I know I’m not the only one who hears themselves say “I can’t do x, y, and z like they can!” Well, no I can’t. I’ve also never, not once, done the things that they did to get there. So, it’s a crazy comparison to make – it’s not just apples vs oranges – it’s apples vs rhinoceros. NO COMPARISON POSSIBLE.
But, we already know that we’re not supposed to compare ourselves to others. Which is all fine and dandy, except that without a place to focus our new found time, we’ll fall back into the old habit of comparison. I suggest a handy exercise I’ve seen countless gurus offer up – find your gifts by asking around.
When I finally decided to take the plunge, I
had to chose to email 25 people and ask them what my top 5 talents/gifts/personality traits were. I was terrified, but it turned out to be a HUGE confidence boost.
I’m not suggesting you ask 25 people, but a great place to start would be 5. Ask 5 people what your natural gifts are – then focus on that. Focus on growing those 5 natural abilities and focusing on how that contributes, in a positive way, to the world you’re living in – home, work, family, friends, etc.
Download a nice PDF to document your 5 new focus points below.
This is what mine looked like when I was done. I often have to go back to it and ‘review’ what areas I’m strongest in. It seems silly, but it’s because of these innate abilities that I live a life I love and get to surround myself with such amazing people. It’s a powerful tool and exercise that’s helped me turn down the comparison monster and turn up my confidence.